The development of a three-year-old is a period full of dynamic changes that fundamentally shape how they see themselves and the world around them. This is a time when toddlers begin to recognize their individuality and express a desire for independence.
Self-awareness and autonomy
By the age of three, a child knows their name, surname, and their parents' first names, and can also identify where they live. They understand whether they are a boy or a girl, which is evidence of their developing perception of gender and social roles that they are beginning to comprehend. Children at this age approach all activities that they can do "by themselves" with tremendous enthusiasm, often manifesting through exploring the world and attempting to make their own decisions. This is also a period when the child learns self-care skills, which are crucial for their motor and emotional development.
Social and emotional relationships
For a three-year-old, favorite toys and objects are almost like extensions of themselves. This makes the process of sharing with peers challenging. At this stage of life, although three-year-olds are usually more prepared to share than two-year-olds, they still need to learn gradually how and when they can do so. Rather than forcing sharing here and now, it is better to allow the child to independently figure out when and with whom they want to share. Such an attitude can better support the child's social development, yielding beneficial effects in the long run. By giving the child autonomy in deciding about sharing, parents help them build healthy relationships with others and develop empathy and social skills on their own terms.
The importance of parental behavior
Parents have an invaluable influence on shaping the identity of their three-year-old child. Key here is the use of positive reinforcements—for example, praising the child for specific achievements, "Well done, Zosia, you're great at putting on your shoes!" This approach is markedly different from reactions that involve criticism or comparing the child with others, which could be demotivating and harmful for their self-esteem, e.g., "Zosia, you still can’t put on those shoes, look how easily Krzysztof does it."
Parents' reactions to various everyday situations directly affect the child’s self-perception and their relationships with others. Children who regularly receive positive reinforcement develop a stronger sense of self-worth and a healthy level of self-acceptance.
Naturally full of energy, a three-year-old can quickly show impatience but also recognizes their limits and capabilities. By allowing them to independently explore the world, parents effectively support the development of their identity within safe boundaries. It is crucial to focus on positively motivating the child, especially by praising their actions and progress, and consciously avoiding comparisons with other children, which can negatively impact their self-esteem.
Maintaining calm and patience during daily educational challenges, as well as avoiding criticism or demeaning the child, especially in the presence of others, are essential for their healthy emotional development. Caring to ensure that the child grows up in an atmosphere of acceptance and love will help them build a strong and positive self-esteem. Through such actions, a three-year-old child will be able to safely explore and adapt to new situations, which is fundamental for building a healthy and positive identity.
